10 Things You Must Do In Order To Quit Watching Porn

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Being a porn addict is no easy battle. You must deal with depression, loneliness, guilt and an array of other factors. You spend countless hours wasted on watching videos or viewing naked pictures. Your daily life is constantly bombarded by explicit thoughts or dirty dialogue that constantly  push you to incite yourself with porn. Having dealt with these challenges myself I wanted to share many different methods I personally used to beat my porn addiction. Some of these I learned from websites and forums while others I figure out on my own. While some methods may or may not appeal to you they can help you start and maintain a fapless life. All 10 strategies were important for me along my journey to achieving full porn recovery. Here are 10 things you must do in order to quit watching porn.

1) Realizing You Have An Addiction

As humans we constantly try to show others that we are perfectly fine. When we experience emotional problems we often put on a fake smile to conceal the pain. If we are sick or in pain we often try to act tough and not see a health specialist. This mindset is even more apparent for men. Society has always taught us that we must remain strong no matter what happens. The phrase ‘No pain no gain’ is a very adopted saying especially in western societies. However, as a porn addict this mindset is extremely unhealthy. Being an addict, it is very crucial that you admit to yourself that you have a problem. If you so happened to randomly quick on this blog post and take it everything I wrote to heart yet didn’t realize you had an addiction you would simply be wasting your time . In fact, I could give you 1000 ways to stop your porn addiction and it wouldn’t matter. As an addict in order for you to actually implement these tactics into your life you must first identify that you have a real problem. In my case I was an addiction for years and i didn’t start the process to living a fapless life until i stopped and realized that I had a serious problem.

If you already know you have a problem then perfect, read ahead. However, if you believe your porn viewing habits are fine or you are simply unsure your addicted to porn  I challenge  you to analyze yourself. Here are a few symptoms that I and other porn addicts have experienced from our porn watching.

  1. Mild to extreme unhappiness when  if your not jacking off to or watching porn
  2. If you are dealing with stressful situations  you often deal with it by watching or jacking off to porn
  3. When you engage in sexual activities your penis isn’t stimulated( sex, blowjobs, handjobs, make outs, dry-humping etc.)
  4. Whenever you are with a girl your member wont get hard unless you jerk it off yourself or your watching porn ( you probably have porn-induced ED)
  5. You spend hours visiting and viewing porn sites regularly

There are many other factors . If you want to see a full list of symptoms click here.

2)Leave a toxic or unhealthy situation

While most people discover porn through curiosity many people become addicted because it can be an outlet from another situation. I  guarantee you if your a porn addict you most likely have another issue that greatly affects your life. In my situation I viewed porn because i thought it could help me deal with my loneliness, anxiety, confidence, and family issues. However, porn was one of the worst ways I could have chosen in dealing with my problems. If I was unable to overcome my problems I most likely would steal be addicted to porn right now. However I made a conscious decision to leave  that situation and it helped me dearly. Whatever you are deal witt whether it’s loneliness, family problems, relationship problems, financial problem, or anything else it can not be solved through watching pornography. Instead you must take significant action to deal with these issues, not deepen them by using porn.

Family Issues: see a family therapist or professional, have a family intervention

Financial issues: get a better paying job, cut living cost, earn more money through part time jobs or side hustles

Loneliness: join a talk group, sports club, etc

Relationship problems: see a marriage counselor, have a family talk, get divorced, start dating other people

If you really want to quit watching porn you must deal with your problems first

3) Join a Forum/ Talk group

Don't try ti quit porn by yourself. The help of others is a powerful toolSomething people often struggle to quit watching porn is dealing with the loneliness porn gives you. They often feel ashamed to reveal to others that they have a problem. They feel that others don’t understand situation or will make them feel less worthy as a person. This was something that I had to deal with on my journey. One thing I did that was extremely impactful for me was that I joined a forum. Sites such as Reddit  or NoFap were tremendously helpful for me in my fight against porn. These sites have hundreds of thousands of other men fighting the same battle I was. If you feel you are fighting this battle alone I highly encourage you to join a forum. They have a boatload of knowledge ranging from personal stories, recovery methods, and tons of information that can help you.

Another thing you can do is join a talk group whether it be online or in person. Similar to forums these sites specifically help individuals with problems of certain situations. The impact of talking out your problems instead of fapping them off is essential for you to living a new life.An even better method is to attend a group in person. If your are religious person there are dozens of christian support groups that can help you fight your addiction. Even if your not religious many groups can still work with you to help you in your recovery. If you are interested in joining a group click here.

4)Engaging in other hobbies

This was a super huge factor for me. One reason I developed the habit of porn was because i had a shit load of free time. As a student I really had nothing to do after schools and I would often fap my life away. If I was bored on the weekend I would watch porn. It wasn’t until I actually started to do productive things with my time that I was able to really start my porn recovery. One particular hobby i became obsessed over was basketball. Being a huge basketball fan I wanted to learn how to play it so badly. Over the next few moths I busied myself by watching videos, learning techniques with a coach and playing pickup games. Since I was so preoccupied in learning something new I didn’t have the free time to watch porn anymore. On many occasions i would come home after practice and go straight to sleep completely forgetting about porn. I highly recommend that you engage in something, but make sure it’s something you arr interested or passionate about. If you pick a hobby that involves you learning about business law or quantum physics your more than likely going to want to watch porn instead (unless your into those types of things) Pick a topic you highly enjoy or a topic that you have always wanted to participate in. Here are a few examples:

  • Sports( helps build your confidence, gain friends, keeps you in shape)
  • Lifting weights ( Feel more attractive, builds confidence, increases your testosterone)
  • Join a club/ extracurricular activity (Help s you stop your loneliness, can build your social skills, forge friendships)
  • Pursuing a dream/Passion ( keeps you engaged, and surprisingly even help you discover your mission in life)

5) Create a rage to your addiction

A very unique way to help you in your battle to overcome addiction is to to become extremely upset that you have an addiction to it. When I first started this it really helped me change my outlook on porn. Instead of being excited I became upset when I searched for websites. Whenever I thought of porn instead of me building it up as being amazing I grew unreleased whenever I watched it. Overtime I built a hatred for porn  because it mad me a pathetic, lonely, depressed individual. Having these thoughts helped challenge me to stop. Warning:I don’t recommend this to everyone, especially those of you with low mental toughness or self-esteem. Engaging in negative self talk can be similar to playing with fire. It can be good at times or it can make things much much worse. Instead of hating porn you will direct this hate towards yourself. Most addicts who know the negatives of porn tend to beat themselves up if they watch porn or masturbate. The key to this method is to direct your hate to the addiction itself and not you as a person.

6) Get off social media

Probably the most difficult thing I had to do was delete or stop using my social media apps. The appeal of Snapchat, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc has become a normal fabric of human society. It helps keep you up to date, is a great Social media can be a big obstacle in your journey to quit porncommunication tool and can help you network yourself. However, If you want a solid and complete porn recovery you must stop using these sites, specifically ones with a lot of photos. If someone you follow reposts  a porn GIF or your best friend retweets a pic of a hot half naked babe your more than likely going to view that picture. On top of that, these site have thousands of porn promoting accounts with nude pics of a girls boobs or ass. Its crazy how much sexual contact these sites have. Don’t believe me? Go ahead and search tits on twitter or Facebook. Even if these sites have filters pics slip through account checks all the time. Whenever a girl in a bikini hits your feed I almost guarantee you will revert to watching porn.

Personally I was obsessed with an Instagram account. One girl was a pro at putting up provocative pics of her tits and ass and she posted them daily. I eventually built a habit of jerking off to her Instagram post. It was almost the equivalent of porn I just didn’t label it as such. My habit was being validated because I thought it was different from xvideos or pornhub.  Even thought I was viewing an instagram account it had most of the characteristics to porn.. Nowadays I have created new accounts due to myself building up more self control. However if you are an addict it will impossible to fully recover if you are constantly surfing Twitter or Instagram for a half naked girl.

7) Get Professional help

Alluding back to finding a forum or talk group, discussing your problems with someone else will benefit you. This can work twice as well if the person you talk to is a paid professional with years of experience and expertise in situations  similar to your own. The day I first saw my psychologist was life changing. At the begging I only discussed child hood issue and current family problems but pretty soon I explained to her how I became addicted to porn. At first I was ashamed and nervous to admit this to her however she never judged me. Instead she continued to build me up and she was a major component in my road to a Fapless life. Whenever I beat myself up for jerking off to porn she gave me encouragement. On top of that she helped me build my confidence, self-esteem and many other issues that I never would have gotten had I not started attending sessions with her.

You may think you don’t need professional help in your recovery process but believe me it will help you greatly. I understand certain psychologist can be very expensive. On top of that, i know many of you don’t have the funds to drop $75 for a 45 minutes talk session. In my situation my therapist wasn’t fully certified so I only had to pay $25 for my sessions with my medical insurance. If you have solid insurance you more than likely can get a reasonable price on sessions. However if money is tight I recommend you search for less known therapist as their rates are much cheaper. Another alternative you can pursue is going to a university or school counselor. If your a student the school you attend more than likely has a counselor on campus. They can help you with your situation and they must remain confidential so don’t worry your secret wont spread through campus like wildfire. Too add to that, these sessions are completely free of charge. Although they may not be as experience or knowledgeable as a psychologist they can still give you pretty solid advice. For the case of  fapers who are tight on cash or don’t attend school search for  lower level therapist or counselors. They offer lower fees than psychologist and will be super enthusiastic to help you quit watching porn.

8) Meditate

Meditation is a great way to clear your thoughtsAS a porn addict I constantly was bombarded with tempting dialogue from my mind. In the 7 years I was an addict, a majority of these days involved thoughts of pornographic images. No matter what I did I couldn’t remove them from my conscience. On many occasions these thoughts would drive me crazy to the point where the only way to stop them was to jerk off. Luckily one faithful day my mother introduced me to the practice of mediation. For those of you who have never tried it meditation is a  process that involves you sitting in a quit area. You close your eyes and sharpen your focus until your mind is completely blank. The amazing thing about meditation is that it can done anywhere. You can choose a short 2 or 3 minutes for emergency urges or you can have extensive session depending on your preference. On top of that every time you engage in this no matter how short the session may be your head space will be much clearer. You will notice the thoughts are gone and you will be able to go about your day relatively porn free.  Along with many of these other methods it can help you deal with daily stresses not including porn. I downloaded a free app on my phone called CALM and there are many different sessions that I use regularly. When overwhelmed with thoughts of watching porn don’t fap, meditate instead!

9) Don’t watch porn, just masturbate

Porn and masturbation are linked to each other. People aren’t very appealed to porn if they cant masturbate to it.. As we all know all humans have a habit of masturbating. Its the reason as kids we were all curious of the pleasurable feelings of touching ourselves. However, porn is an artificial stimulant to our brains. When we view these videos or pictures were programming our dopamine receptors to only react to images of naked women. If you want to stop your have good porn recovery is to only masturbate when you have urges. This essentially is reprogramming your brain to seek pleasure from penis stimulation instead of porn content. To this day If I have a real urge to pleasure myself sexually and I cant get the real thing I will pleasure myself through masturbation

Warning: Although masturbation is healthy it can quickly develop into an addiction as well. Many porn addicts have also adopted weird masturbation techniques that aren’t healthy for them. If you have stopped using the normal jerking motion and instead do weird jerking motions that involve tight gripping or pure penis head stimulation. These methods are not natural things to do. Death griping your penis when you have an urge will do more you more bad than good. If you plan to use this method here are a few tips:

Only masturbate when your penis is visibly erect. Its one thing to masturbate when your really horny, but if you do masturbate just for the fuck of it you won’t make much progress.

When you masturbate use plenty of lube. The lube can be lotion oil, etc as long as it helps you imitate real life sex. Guys don’t stick there dicks in a vagina dry do they?

Don’t beat up your dick. If you need to beat your member use softer strokes than what your accustomed to. As i said above a death grip will not help you.

Masturbate to past acts with your wife, girlfriend or lover. If you masturbate to recent videos or pics in your mind it defeats the purpose. Its the equivalent of a cigarette smoker switching to cigars. It will still kill you. If you are like me and had no past experience with a lover than abstain from masturbation or specifically focus on the sensation following these rule.

10) Get some real life action

Love is the ultimate healer

Alluding to my first reason I can give you all the guidance in the world but it will be useless if you don’t have a way to pleasure yourself sexually. Us humans have an internal desire to have sex. You wouldn’t have read this post if we didn’t. However, even if you have these previous 9 techniques to help you quit watching porn it will be useless if you never get experience real life sex. You must be able to get some sexual action in order for your porn recovery to have a happy

 

ending. Throughout my journey I made huge strides to improve my situation with porn, however  i was never fully recovered until I had real authentic sex with a girl. Believe me when I discovered  the feeling of vagina and compared it with porn, vagina won every time. Real life sex is amazing compared porn masturbation. Its like your first time jacking off however the feeling just repeats itself.  It will help you reprogram your mind to the natural pleasures of sex and can help you conquer your porn-induced erectile dysfunction as well if you deal with this.

If your already have a wife or girlfriend great for you, you have a head start. However, if your like me and you haven’t had real action in months or years or your  virgin you need to do more. You have a new obstacle to finding a lover willing to have sex with you. That’s toe final step for you to live a Fapless Life. The main I did to get sex was become much more attractive to women. Whether it was getting a new style, gaining muscle or building my confidence i worked on it in order to get real life intimacy. You too can do all of these things and you will find a girl to share this moment with. Even if you feel hopeless that a girl wont want to smash you, don’t worry. You can always pay someone. There are millions of girls in this world ready and willing to spread there legs for  you in exchange for  a couple hundred dollars. Or you can do it the easier and more fulfilling way and  build yourself up to be more attractive. There a tons of solid f sites that specialize in helping men achieve this. Use a simple google search if you are unsure. Personally I visit here and here but any method you have that works is fine

You are now armed and ready

There you have it! Those are the 10 things you must do in order to stop quit watching porn.  I promise you, if you do even half of these methods  you’ll see a ton of progress in your porn recovery. In my opinion they’re all equally important and you should at least try them. However if mediation isn’t your thing or you cant afford a psychologist i understand. Just don’t make excuses. almost all of these are simple changes you can make that will improve your life tremendously. Besides helping you quit porn you will become a much more confident and happy man. I and thousand of other fapers have used these methods.  If you decide to use them there is no chance in hell  you will remain a porn addict