7 Reasons Why You Watch Porn

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You ofen hear about why porn is bad but you were never informed why you watched it to begin with. Well today I give you the 7 reasons why you watch pornOne thing I often notice in the porn addiction community is that there isn’t too much information on why people become addicted to it in the first place. In most cases they often only talk about the ill effects a impact it has on you. Common statements range from telling you to “quit now your screwing your brain up.” Or they may use guilt tactics like “quit jerking off you’ll go to hell.” However, they give you all these reasons to quit but don’t inform you about WHY you watch it in the first place. In my journey, a huge turning point for me was when I found the real root of my addiction. Now I’m not saying fancy statistics and studied facts aren’t helpful, I just believe finding the root of the problem is a very important to a person recovering. With that being said I figured I should settle this little problem once and for all and give you the 7 reasons why you watch porn. Keep in mind you can have just one reason on this list or all seven. If you do have multiple reasons don’t be ashamed. You’ll just have more work to do. In fact when I was an addict I had six of the seven reasons. So sit down and grab some lotion (joking don’t do that) and enjoy the post.

Reason #1: You Were Lonely

Nobody likes being alone. This is a terrible position to be in as a porn addict this is the worst spot to be in. Unlike drug addictions you watch porn by yourself. You don’t hear many fapers in a circle beating away at the same video( if you do congratulations your the first).This was one of the main reasons I became addicted. When your a middle school or high school student you often spend lots of time by yourself. Your parents are still at work since you get out super early every day and you don’t see much attention. If you work a job once you get off you most likely have tons of free time especially on your off days. Also, if you are very introverted this also increases your chances of being a pron addict. You are much much more likely to watch it when your by your lonesome. This reason is why many addicts claim to live a double life because they often build this habit in secrecy

Solutions:I understand how difficult this can be to deal with. As a faper you have become accustomed to your introverted ways. Nonetheless if you want to stop try your hardest to be around others. Try chilling with a

Can't watch porn with your best bud around
Can’t watch porn with your best bud around

friend instead. Maybe join an after school program or plan to do happy hour after work. One very big reason I overcame my addiction was being around the company of others. When i attended school out of state I was on a sports time. My free time was normally spent in the company of my teammates. I was with them 24/7. Although I found ways to masturbate, ( I had so many methods it’s ridiculous) I was less inclined to watch porn around them. Also what other addicts often do is to spend less time in their room and instead chill in the living or dining rooms of their house. I know you cant stand your mom’s constant nagging but this isn’t about that. Your trying to get clean for peat-sake!

Reason #2: You Had No Real Life Experience

Another one of the reasons why you watch porn is because you can’t get any real life action playa. Now this reason doesn’t plague everyone. There are plenty of addicts who became addicted to porn with a girlfriend or wife in their life and kudos to them. But if your a faper similar to me and you never had sex before discovering porn this is a culprit..I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 18 years old yet I discovered porn at 13. In those 5 years porn was the only way to release my sexual desires. In some instances porn addicts can  end up like Steve Carol and have 40 years of existence but never experienced sex. Many of you started watching porn before you ever had real life sex so you can relate. Once you found your vice in porn it’s scary and difficult to translate to real life women. You have become so accustomed to looking at Lisa Ann’s tits that you don’t want to feel that girl Jenn’s in person.

Solution: Learn to get laid. I know getting laid can be hard. It often takes a lot of work especially if you have been watching porn for a significant amount of time. My best advice in this situation is to recover from your addiction while simultaneously work at making yourself more attractive. This has tons of benefit for you like increasing your self-esteem, boosting your confidence, raising your testosterone but most importantly it will make you more appealing to the opposite sex. No i won’t tell you this is easy because it’s not. This was arguably the hardest thing I’ve ever done along with beating porn addiction but once I did it the transformation you feel is amazing. There are tons of websites across the web that help men like you and me become more attractive but a few that stuck with me in particular where GirlsChase and Blackdragonblog. On these sites they teach you a boat load of things and more in regards to women, relationships, dating, etc. it’s an amazing tool for guys who need help in the women department. Or if you want you can always have Seth Rogen teach you a thing or two about how to talk to women

Reason #3: You use it To Escape Your Real Life

While porn is an addiction, it’s unique from others. A main difference is that many addicts use it to escape from the real world. Many times they will turn to porn instead of dealing with a failing relationship, poor work performance, or their children.Its 10 times easier to believe you are a stud smashing a hot lady instead of realizing you are an unattractive loser in real life. I must admit I was susceptible to this phenomenon. I felt great that I had access to these stunning girls bodies however in real life i didn’t have shit going on for me. Porn has the sick ability to suck people in to another reality. This is one of the effects from our world going digital. Many people often get wrapped up in a virtual or artificial world that seems real to them.

Solution:  To beat this reason you must understand that porn isn’t real.  Listen, i know you may feel like a god because you jerk off to hot girls 24/7. You feel great that you experience sexual pone of the reasons why you watch porn is to escape your problemspleasure that most others won’t ever feel. But you must realize that the shit isn’t real.Porn is artificial. There’s a reason why millions of Japanese men get turned on by cartoon pictures. It’s a built up fantasy in their minds. Sadly this trend won’t stop anytime soon In fact with newer technologies like virtual reality goggles and the likes these fantasies will feel much more real to the point an individual won’t realize he or she is in a fake reality. If you’re trapped in a fantasy you must break yourself out of it. Remember that the images and videos aren’t real but fool’s gold. Also, remember you’ll feel 1000 times better when you actually smash that hot babe on your screen in person.

Reason #4: Boredom

One of the biggest reasons why you watch porn is because your always bored. The sheer boredom an addict experiences on the daily is crazy. As a fellow addict I know you can relate to this situation. You come home from school, work, etc and you sit down and relax. You may go on your phone put on the news more than likely bashing trump or surf social media for a bit. Once that’s done you lose all stimulation to your brain and you become super bored. Realizing your boredom your mind says ” how bout we watch some hot babes?That’ sounds like fun.” Reluctantly you refuse knowing the mind games your mind is playing on you. Then, 5 minutes later your bored senseless again and fighting your mental dialogue. This cycle repeats itself to the point where you end up jerking off . If you’re anything similar to how I was once you finish you’ll use that same bored excuse and continue to jerk off, engaging in a porn binge for hours. Porn and boredom are a fierce tandem and must be very aware of this.

Solution: Keep your self BUSY. When I was an addict I had no projects, no hobbies or no friends. The only thing that occupied my life was school, food, sleep and porn. However, nowadays I’ve incorporated many different hobbies and I rarely have the urge to watch porn. I’m to buys doing other shit to even bother. Between working out, my job, my girlfriend, and running this blog, porn  is the last thing on my mind and it’s great.If your a full-fledged addict your best counter is to start occupying your free time. Go workout. Take long walks, Explore your city Meet some cuties and go on some dates. Curse out all your exes on Facebook. I don’t care what it is; If it keeps you from rubbing one off do it.

A reason you watch porn may be cause your stressed the hell outReason #5: Stress [ include dopeamine study site etc]

Stress is a huge issue in our society today. From your asshole of a boss, to a rough economy, or that exam that you must cram for, stress is all around you. As humans it’s something that we face daily. One thing that addicts use porn is because they believe it can relieve their stress. This is done in large part by the dopamine released from our brain. Dopamine levels spike significantly while viewing pornographic images. If someone were to watch porn after any distress in their life they will often link porn as a healthy stress reliever for themselves. An f article by the Gospel Coalition describes this situation perfectly:

Dopamine surges when a person is exposed to novel stimuli, particularly if it is sexual, or when a stimuli is more arousing than anticipated. Because erotic imagery triggers more dopamine than sex with a familiar partner, exposure to pornography leads to “arousal addiction” and teaches the brain to prefer the image and become less satisfied with real-life sexual partners.

Basically, this association between porn stimulation and your brain’s dopeamine is the reason your addicted. If you ever have stress and need a recharge your brain will more than likely want that dopeamine rush porn gave you the last time you cried because your girlfriend left you

Solution: Whenever these moments of stress happen find a better alternative to handling your problems. Lifting weights, going swimming, playing sports, playing video games, and watching tv are all much better options than watching porn. While engaging yourself to porn is more pleasurable those other options are much less harmful. This is just the tip of the iceberg. There are tens of thousands different things you can do instead of watching in porn. So when your stressing, just chill dude and find an alternative.

Reason #6: You Had An Unwanted Stumbling/ Experimentation

This is the biggest reason  I started watching porn in the first place. I was relaxing watching a a reality TV show when my curiosity got the best of me. I saw this girl who had the most sexy body I’ve ever seen in my thirteen years of existence. Her breast had me mesmerized. Like any other 13 year old boy would do I felt this weird sensation in my private region and I handled my business. Four years later I was down in the dumps because of it.  As a kid chances are you have consumed information in regards to sex, masturbation or pornography. To top it off, you are at an age where you are experiencing drastic changes and your very curious.

Some of you may have stumbled upon porn another way. You may have just been exploring the web until you came across a picture, video, or link. Unsuspectingly you clicked on the link and BAAM a naked lady was all over your screen. Another common situation is you typed in a certain URL that was misspelled or incorrect and it redirected you to that site. This is actually very common. According to an article by Mirror Co, in 2010 between 5-15% of sites on the internet are porn related. If you were to transfer that into a fraction basically one out every 10-20 sites are porn related.

Solution: Unlike the other reasons on this list this is not the addicts fault. You cant help if you got stuck on porn from a wrong click or simple adolescence curiosity. It’s unfortunate that many young children become addicted from an innocent search for a game or child video. If this particular reason is a reason you became an addict I understand your pain especially if you were a young child. IT’s unfortunate that millions of kids become exposed to such things at such an innocent age. However, as I stated in the beginning as an addict you can and probably have more than one reason on this list for how you became an addict. Figure out that other reason(s) and solve it.

Reason #7: You Loved The Pleasure

I get it, Jacking off feels amazing. It is arguably one of the greatest pleasures in human life. Being able to feel amazing sensations at a moments notice is great and is the main reason i’m happy i wasn’t born an asexual bacteria under a rock somewhere. With that being said masturbating and watching porn are two different ballgames. You might have grown up loving how it felt but i guarantee the first time and now have no comparison in the feeling. Also watching porn on top of masturbation is terrible as I’ve said on this blog many times. Pretty soon your harmless pleasure filled act became a destructive habit that eventually took your life, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this blog in the first place.

Solutions While pleasure is great you must understand how dangerous using it with porn can be. Understand that you are training your brain to associate porn with happiness. You might have lost your job, your friends, or your spouse from watching it. Oh, and by the way those countless hours you wasted watching scenes you could have spent on something much more productive. Besides, while porn and masturbation is great the real sex beats it every time. There’s a reason sex is arguably the best perk of being a human. You most likely wouldn’t be reading this post if it wasn’t.

Well now you know why

There you have it. Those are seven reasons why you watch porn. There may be other reasons but in my brainstorming i found the others to be very similar to the seven I discussed above.I hope this post can help inform you why you started watching porn and also give you an idea of what you must do to recover properly.  As i said it’s one thing to know what your addiction is and how it hurts you, but I believe its much more important to understand WHY your an addict. The Why is what drives you to jerk off every day. Now since you understand the why take action to change it.

  • If your lonely make friends.
  • If you are a virgin make yourself more attractive and get real sex.
  • Don’t use porn as an escape in your life. Wake up and realize it wont help you.
  • When you are bored and unoccupied try to embellish in new tasks, projects, or hobbies.
  • If you are super stressed out and watch porn to relieve it, find more healthy alternatives.
  • If you accidentally stumbled on the site realize that its’ pretty terrible for your life.
  • While you love the pleasure from porn understand it’s much more pleasurable with a real person. 😉

 

You will live a Fapless life. You’re much stronger than you believe.

Adios, tu amigo,

Brandon