Do you Need It?
Yesterday I was relaxing in my free time and it was one of those rare occasions where I was watching T.V. I was watching the NBA playoff game between Houston and San Antonio (great series to watch for my basketball fans). Whenever the game went to commercial I would flip the channel to Spongebob. Since I grew up in the late 90’s and early 2000’s Spongebob was an iconic show for kids like me.The buffoonery, the epic songs, and the crazy child humor will always have a special place in my heart. Whenever I watch the older episodes I get a huge feeling of nostalgia.
Anyways, one of my favorite episodes was running. In this particular episode spongebob meets Sandy Cheeks and she invites him to her treedome. Now for the readers who have never seen the show or have but have never watched this episode in particular, Sandy is a land creature who recently moved underwater. On the contrary, spongebob is a saltwater sponge who has never met someone of her kind. Long story short she invites him over to her house and he enters unknowingly. He doesn’t understand that sandy lives in a water free air dome and there is no chance in hell he can survive there. The longer he stays the more his craving for water grows. Eventually he must make the decision to either be cool with his pinky out and remain in the horrible dome or quit and go back to his good ole water. While the sequence of events are hilarious one particular event is relate able for all fapers:
Now while these events are just from a popular cartoon, i’m sure fapers can relate to my man spongebob. There’s always situations that create this dialogue especially for me. I personally haven’t watched and fapped to porn in months but I deal with this on a daily basis. Whenever I go on Instagram twitter, or Facebook and see a sexy girl with huge D cups or I stumble upon Twerk videos all over the internet my mind engages in a battle. My desire tells me “Go ahead your doing fine, what’s one session?” Then I snap back to reality and say No, I Don’t need it.
How Can You Win this battle?
No matter how long you go fapless, this dialogue doesn’t go away. The cravings are wired into your brain whether you like it or not. However you always have a choice. You can destroy weeks, months, and years of hard work for 5 minutes of gratification. Or you can say to yourself “I don’t need it” and repeat it constantly. One way I dealt with this problem was to repeat ot myself positive reinforcement to my addiction Here are some examples:
- “I’m Fine Without Porn, I don’t need It”
- “That’s just my cravings talking, I’m great without it.
- “Porn won’t control me anymore, I’m better of without It
Or if you find yourself with a ton of dialogues that your mind tells you so you can jack off, here is a great post that you can use: https://yourbrainonporn.com/45-lies-your-mind-uses-keep-you-addicted. I’m sure you have told yourself some of if not may of the same things at some point throughout your addiction.
You don’t have to say these phrases word for word. You can customize it and make it your own but I encourage you to do this. Practice it daily. At first you may feel like it’s not having an effect but in the next few weeks you’ll see a change in your mind’s dialogue. Instead of giving in like spongebob and feeding your craving you will remain strong and abstain from the damaging videos.
Believe me! You can do this simply with one “I don’t need it” at a time.